MAKE MONEY
This seems self-explanatory. But really, some people are just not very driven to succeed. We both have an almost identical desire to be self-made and to end up with enough money to live comfortably. Not even really to get rich quick, but to make our own money while not screwing anyone over to do it either.
CONQUER THE WORLD
O.K., not really for real. But we always find ourselves being the ones people turn to to solve their problems, give them business advice, and run their empires from behind the scenes. We don't really want to be rulers of the world, but we get off on being drawn into positions of power by those around us. People sense it and gravitate towards it - we both have that certain aura about us. Probably because of the high IQs. Not that I'm being pretentious - we really are both geniuses.
SING
We both love to sing. I loved to sing in my car and was formerly in choir and all those splinter-choir groups in school too. But, I never tried Karaoke as I suffered from terrible stage fright. ...until there was him. He urged me to get up on the stage and finally I tried it. I really do love it, I just wish I had a bigger list of songs that I feel I sing well enough to perform in public. He is of course the best singer I've ever heard and it just melts me every time I watch him sing, or hear him sing (even if it's just in the car). In those moments I get to truly revel in my love for him - he makes me so proud to be his woman.
LAUGH
He's the only person I know that is like the Laurel to my Hardy, the Ricky to my Lucy, you name it. We can sit in a room together all day long with no outside influences and just make each other laugh non-stop. Yeah, sometimes I laugh AT him (his lack of coordination should be televised), but mostly with him. Also, we always end up being the "life of the party" as we can play off each other and turn anything into something worthy of uproarious laughter. We have secretly thought of just recording all of our interactions with each other and turning it into a radio show. We even confessed this to a friend or two and the reaction was pretty much "I would totally listen to that religiously". I made the mistake before of marrying a man who "made me laugh", thinking that was one of the major criteria for a relationship. And it is, but without the intelligence to back it up, the laughter eventually falls flat and I just ended up resenting being with someone who couldn't fundamentally understand my point of view. He really gets my sense of humor and delights in bending words, images, thoughts, and minds with me. We make each other laugh, not he makes "me" laugh...
HAVE SEX - PREFERABLY OF THE MIND-BLOWING VARIETY
Yeah. I've had my fair share of sex in this life, and no one has ever turned me inside out like he does. Just kissing him or stroking his skin makes me wet. Sometimes just watching him work or talk to a client makes me wet. He's not a Greek god by anyone's standards either (as I am no barbie). We're both fat and out of shape, but when he touches me I know that I am the sexiest woman alive. Not to be crass, but that's all chemistry - biology did a number on us too. His cock was literally hand-crafted for my pussy - it's not about length or girth or any one attribute in particular - it just fits in all the right ways. Sex has never innately felt this right with anyone else ever. I don't imagine it's anything I could ever find again. I think it's a rare combination of pheromones, intelligence, and biology that make it something special. I literally look at other couples and feel sorry for them because I know that they'll never have what we have. Maybe that's just the kind of sex you get with true love or something. Maybe all kinds of people feel this way about their significant other. But to me, it feels like I'm the only one. It's that intense.
EAT GOOD FOOD
Like I said, we're fat. There's a reason for that. We love to eat. Lots of people love to eat, but we also almost exclusively like all the same foods - so a trip to a restaurant is just another extension of sex, laughter, or any of those other things we have in common - it's symbiotic. The 2 exceptions are mushrooms (I like, he hates) and shellfish (I'm allergic). Adventures in trying new food are always great too.
KEEP A WATCHFUL EYE ON THOSE IN GOVERNMENT POWER
Granted, he tends to be a lot more extreme in his views than I, but we both have a near obsession with staying informed and vigilant. We keep an eye on both sides of the spectrum - as both tend to misrepresent and exaggerate. Another difference between him and all the others, he's got a wide range of political views so he tends to not stay in any particular "box". I've been with men that have never even voted. I mean, really. How stupid do you have to be to not care enough to vote.
BE PASSIONATE
Obviously this can fall under any of these categories. But overall, we are both passionate people. We work hard, play hard, love hard, fall hard. This crosses all boundaries and permeates every aspect of our lives. It makes having a disagreement unbelievably difficult, because we each feel so passionately about our point of view that there's seldom a resolution - we just end up not talking about it anymore. Of course, usually in the grand scheme of things, whatever it is we are disagreeing about is not major enough to warrant any ongoing fights. I think this is a new experience for both of us because we were probably both always in relationships where whatever we believed so passionately ended up swaying our partner into belief, or our personalities are so strong that the significant other just went along with it to keep the peace.
LIFELONG LEARNING
An obvious extension of keeping informed. We both thrive on learning new tricks, trades, techniques, history, words, you name it. One of my favorite things about being in this relationship has been learning something new and then sharing it with him - or vice versa.
KEEP EXPLORING AND DISCOVERING
An obvious extension of learning. Rarely do you find someone who's up for an adventure of the same sorts you enjoy. Not only that, but exploring new thing in all of life's arenas makes a relationship pretty darn spicy, I must say.
RAISING INTELLIGENT AND AWESOME CHILDREN
They were born with a certain amount of brain matter, but he shares the goal of making sure they are better than well-equipped for the world when the time comes. From asking questions and taking the time to explain answers, to planning for the now-a-tradition "science friday" (taking a page from MPR) - when the kids latch on to something new and truly understand, he just lights up. I love that he's just as proud of the kids as I am even though he's not the biological Dad.
NOT HAVING ANY MORE CHILDREN - 2 IS ENOUGH
I'm not entirely sure what his personal reasons are for not wanting any children, but it jives well with my goals. I already have 2 from a previous marriage and it was extremely difficult on my health when they were born. I'd like to be around for as much of their lives as possible. If I chose to have another child, I would need to make sure to get healthy first and have the best of medical care. Plus, they just keep getting more independent by the day, and that feels great to have a little more time here and there, and a little less stress. I don't know if I'd have the energy to raise another child at my age. Honestly, he's the only one I would ever even remotely consider having another child for. And it would only be for him under the right circumstances. So yeah, I'm thankful he doesn't want any of his own. We have our hands full with 2.
VOCALIZING LOVE
When I tell him I Love him, he always says it back. I know that's not technically a "goal", but it's something in common that makes us great together. I always know that he loves me and isn't afraid to show it. Even if we're fighting, if he's woken up or caught off-guard he instinctually says "honey" "babe" etc. I know he loves me. I know he loves me. I know he loves me. I know he loves me. And I cling to it. When it seems like everything is crumbling, and no matter how bad he treats me from time to time, I know he loves me.
